The best possible place for you to be today

January 1, 2013

You’re not late to the party!

You might think you’re the only one without a plan for the new year, all shiny and completely realized. You’re not. In fact, you’re in very good company.

As per my usual my creative, optimistic flights of fancy, I imagined doing a TON of stuff while I took some time off over the holidays – plan my year with collages and calendars, scrub the whole house clean, paint the bathroom, make all my Christmas presents by hand, and change the world. You know, the usual over-the-top but well intentioned optimism.

In my 12 days off, I didn’t do nearly that much. I journaled. I got the house cleaner than it’s been in months. With Inspired Spouse’s help, we made truffles to give away as gifts. But did I makeover my whole home, plan the whole year, and save the world? Not on your life.

It’s too soon to have a plan (for all kinds of good reasons)

If you had kids at home over the break or family visits/staying with you or a case of the winter blues, you might feel pretty tapped out right now. After the merry-but-exhausting holidays, January can greet you feeling depleted, feeling bewildered, and feeling downright behind.

I just want you to know, even the experts don’t have the year all figured out. And neither should you.

So here’s a gentle, welcome to 2013 message from my heart to yours:

You’re not behind on your new year planning
You’re not behind
and you’re not going to get left behind.
You’re exactly where you need to be on January 1, 2013.
Really.

You don’t have to have a plan today.
You don’t need to know where you’re going.
If you do have a glimmer or some ideas – fabulous.
If you know you just need some downtime to recover – that’s a blessed insight.
So –
take a deep breath
and entertain the idea that this month is for resting
refilling, nourishing, and contemplating.
January: the best month of the whole year to reflect on the past, on the year coming
and discover
and dream.
If you dare, take long naps,
doodle in your journal
and witness who you are right now, today.
Consider what led you here
and where you might want to go.
Be curious and just let the ideas percolate.

The best possible place for you to be today is right where you are.

And if you just can’t sit still?

If you read all this and still feel antsy and want to put your focus somewhere, here’s a practical step: clear out stuff. If there’s anything in your space (bedroom, office, bathroom, etc.) that feels dusty or sticky or dead, start clearing it out.

Whether you use a dust rag, a broom, or a huge recycle bin, clearing your stuff gives you energy. You feel physically lighter and unburdened. Maybe that’s how you’d like to feel right now.

The other thing is that clearing stuff makes room for clarity. Clarity is a tremendous gift to yourself at the beginning of the year. It makes space for what you do want to come in and lets the Divine know that you’re open for its subtle movement in your life.

So, if you can’t sit still, then clear stuff. And then stand back and notice the space you’ve created.

Cultivate peace

Above all, remember that you’re just in the right place in your life right now. There’s just nowhere else for you to be, so don’t fight it. You will have insights about the coming year, but there’s no need to force them. Take your time this month. Fill yourself back up again. Find peace.

Happy new year!

Love,
Jen

From dreaded to dreamy – 9 ways to clear negative juju from your space

November 29, 2012

“Super Yucky Land”

Have you ever spent time away from your workspace because of something hard — a loss, an illness, or a big life change — and returned to it feeling immense dread? On a practical level, your space looks the same as before, but on an energetic level, it’s become what my friend called “super yucky land”.

Here’s why: The feelings you associate with the hard event get captured, anchored in your space. In your heart, the hard thing and your space become the same thing: repellant, draining, and even depressing.

Yuck.

If you’re feeling this right now, I’m so sorry.

The good news?

There are lots of gentle, creative ways to cleanse negative energy from your office or studio. In fact, you can start enjoying your space today instead of dreading it.

Just take a look at these nine ideas for clearing bad-juju.

9. Play music
Eschew the headphones and instead drag out your old CD player or turn on Pandora. Choose tunes that mirror the energy you want to create in your space. Imagine that the sound waves of good energy are filling your space, crowding out the negative feelings.

8. Remove triggers
If there’s anything in your space that makes your heart race or stomach clench when you look at it, move it out. Don’t worry about where, just move it out to a place you don’t often use . I suggest this because negative triggers are such a huge emotional and energetic drain, you’ll feel lighter when you move them out of this sacred space. You can always bring them back later if you decide to — or get rid of them permanently.

7. Nudge anything heavy-feeling
For less triggery items, I suggest nudging. Feel resistant to your calendar? Hang it in a new place. File cabinet feel depressing? Bump it with your hip just far enough to shift the energy. Just moving an object a tiny bit helps create flow and gets energy unstuck.

6. Dust (the verb)
Participants in my Office Spa Days are amazed at how refreshed their desk feels when they’ve wiped off the dust. In feng shui, practitioners believe that dust is dead energy. When you look at it that way, who wants their space coated with dead stuff? A few swipes with a damp cloth and you’ll feel lighter and free-er.

5. Sweep or vacuum
Depending on the type of flooring you have in your workspace, a broom or vacuum can remove all the dust you’ve cleared from other surfaces — along with dirt, dead bugs, hair and lots of other things that contribute to feelings of yuckiness. In this case, “sucking it up” is a great idea!

4. Clean windows
If you thought I was going to recommend housework in this article, you might not be reading, but bear with me. If you are blessed with windows in your space, clean them. The light they let in is beneficial because it has an even higher vibrational frequency than sound does (see idea #9). Sunlight also gives you physical energy and creates happiness-inducing Vitamin D in your body. So cleaning the windows invites in more light, good energy, and healing to your space.

3. Add scent
Synthetic fragrances tend to be too stimulating for me. However, natural fragrances that come from essential oils, a bowl of oranges, or a cup of cinnamon tea can create a lovely, almost unconscious energy shift in a room. This morning, I salvaged a winter rose and was delighted to discover its fragrance as it opened. This tiny scent makes me feel happy and calm as I write!

2. Use healing sounds
Every New Year, Inspired Spouse and I have an energy-clearing tradition. We clean up the Christmas decorations and then walk around the house with two silver angel bells. We ring them in every room and in every corner to chase away any bad energy that has accumulated during the year. Yes, it terrifies the cats, but the space feels clean, crisp and new afterward. You can also do this with chimes, gongs, or wind instruments to similar effect.

1. Do a ceremony
When I created my new home office, I enlisted the help of Creative Haven member and healer, Deb Globus. Together we designed a ceremony that helped me close the old space and open to the new.

A purification ceremony can include smudging with incense or sage or water sprinkling to symbolize the cleansing that is taking place. I love rituals that use the whole body, in addition to the heart and mind. It is especially powerful to set an intention for the newly-reclaimed space and imagine how you’ll use it in the future. This creates not just positive energy, but deeply intentional, sacred space.

One last point

When it comes to shifting the energy in your workspace, give yourself time to make progress and be gentle as you proceed.

Combining any of the suggestions above can help you reclaim your space and rediscover how healing it can be to have a room of your own. Imagine the creativity and enjoyment that await!

Have other energy-clearing ideas? Comment below!

3 ways to organize your money systems from the inside out

November 26, 2012

Image credit: Wikipedia

Money — it’s less than you think

Sit with this idea for a minute: That green (or blue or pink or silver) stuff? It’s nothing. I know this defies everything you’ve been taught about money. I know you’ll want to argue this, but bear with me.

Money is a placeholder.

When I give you something, the money you give me holds the place of the item’s value. The item has value, not the money. Or if you provide me with a service, the money I give you is a placeholder for the of the value of your time. The service and your time have value, not the money. Money just holds the value’s place, like a bookmark in the tome of the world’s activity.

By itself, money isn’t anything more than a piece of colorful cloth.

Why we want more colorful cloth

A certain amount of freedom comes from being able to exchange this placeholder for the things we want.

Although everyone thinks they want more cash, dinero, moola, that’s not the heart of it. We don’t really want money.

Really. What we want are more choices, options, and freedom.

We see what the rich have and think, “I want their money.” But it’s a lie. What we want is their freedom. We want the seemingly limitless options they have.

Image credit: Wikipedia.org

Dispelling scarcity

What I see as the most toxic belief to generating income is that there isn’t enough to go around.  The belief in scarcity. Realistically, there is a finite number of dollars and euro in the world. But of the available pieces of colored fabric in the world, do you think trying a new strategy in your work could give you access to more of them? Of course. Absolutely.

So to dispel scarcity, it’s time to stop seeing money as a thing you covet, in and of itself — and start seeing that pretty cloth or shiny coin as a symbol for work performed and products acquired.

There is plenty to go around.

The outer path: Prevent leaks by tightening money systems

As a professional organizer to cluttered creatives, my heart cringes when I think about the myriad tiny ways you can unintentionally limit your income — and thus your choices.

Typical leaks — for example:

  • Charging too much or too little for your services and products
  • Not collecting money in a clear or timely manner
  • Believing that you should charge less than your competition because you are/are not ______ (new, a college graduate, just starting out, etc.)
  • Basing your own purchasing decisions on the lowest price, rather than total value

Many people are careless with money because they don’t recognize the value of their individual gifts and the impact their work makes in the world.

If you truly recognized the impact of your gifts and contribution, you would see to it that others benefit from your gifts, and you receive compensation for your contribution. You would plug all the tiny leaks that prevent your gifts from being given and you receiving your placeholder in return.

When your systems are leaky, they diminish both the cash flowing into your life and your contribution to the world. These oversights decrease your impact, how much money you make, and ultimately your access to the choices you seek.

The remedy? It all comes down to systems.

To prevent leakage of your precious resources, look closely at:

  • What you charge for your services, your work, your time, your products
  • How you collect money for your work
  • Which habits or unconscious beliefs prevent you from receiving fair compensation
  • Where you resist giving others fair compensation

The better your systems are, the less friction is caused in each transaction. And the less friction, the more easily you and others can share your gifts while receiving fair compensation for the work and services you provide.

The inner path: consciously redefining wealth

This is the point that so many money-making strategists ignore: The goal isn’t to earn more money, it’s to create more freedom and spaciousness in our lives.

And money is just one of many, many ways to get there.

The Western world is just starting to remember that money is only one of many roads to freedom. The “material girl” syndrome of the 80′s is starting to sound hollow. Homemade clothing is trendy instead of shameful. Sales of home canning supplies are at an all time high. And we’re starting to insist that big companies like Walmart source its clothing without endangering workers.

Money is starting to shift from being The Priority to a priority among others, like quality of life, meaningful relationships, spiritual development, and global consciousness. These provide us with a wholly different type of freedom and wealth which may be even more satisfying in the long term.

To see what I mean, pause and reflect on how much freedom you have in your life. How many choices you have that are independent of your income. How many options do you have in this very moment that don’t cost anything? Isn’t it amazing when you stop to think?

It’s time to open up to the freedom you have right now — to choose love. To open up with gratitude for this already abundant life.

And so

I want you to know — you don’t deserve more or less money. It’s never been about deserving. Today is the day you decide how much choice you want in your life. How much freedom do you really want?

And then act — by releasing scarcity, tightening your money systems, and opening with gratitude to the wealth that is already present in your life.

Two steps for less stress and more gratitude

November 6, 2012

In this video, I describe (and show) a two-part process that helps you release stress and fill up with grateful goodness.

(Click here to see it on YouTube.)

Step 1:

Divide a sheet of paper into two sections.

On the left, write Divine Delegation. Under it, brainstorm a list of anything that’s weighing on your heart and mind. As you do this, release these worries and concerns to the Divine (Love, Spirit, Universe – the entity vast enough to absorb your energy.)

Pause to mindfully release these worries.

Step 2:

On the right, write Gratefulness List, then brainstorm the things you’re grateful for. From the sublime to the silly, what circumstances, events, possessions and people evoke gratitude in you?

Pause again and allow the abundance into your heart.

Step 3:

Repeat as needed. By regularly releasing your worries then letting in your life’s treasures, you break the patterns of worry and overflow with gratefulness.

Grace and rainbows: Life lessons from a trip to Ireland

October 22, 2012

The exciting plan, realized

Since early this year, when our dear friend and her handsome sweetheart set their wedding date, we’ve been planning a two-week trip to Ireland. Where we’d stay, what we’d wear, what we’d do after the newlyweds departed for their honeymoon. We researched birding opportunities, walks in the countryside, and scenic vistas we didn’t want to miss.

And the unexpected gifts along the way

I mean REAL rainbows, people! :)

Despite everything we read in the guidebooks, we didn’t anticipate how warm and wonderful the Irish people are – how conversational, how genuinely curious, and how generous (total strangers, friends of the bride, took us in, fed, and ferried us for 4 days). We couldn’t have planned for the delightful serendipity of late-night conversations and hilarious story-telling with bright, fun people. We thought we wouldn’t see a lick of sun in mid-October, but we were treated to bright mornings and rainbows galore.

I am so grateful for these completely unplanned moments of grace and delight. Without them, our trip would have been a well-researched, but two-dimensional experience. Instead, I returned home with a heart full of love, and a yearning to return to this lovely country for a third time, and many more. The lesson for me is that planning only takes you so far – there comes a time to release the plan and open up to the gift of each moment.

Coming back down

Fortunately, I planned my return. I had a plan for what to do once we hit the ground in the good ol’ US of A: down time. And it’s a good thing I did.

I didn’t anticipate how jet-schnockered I’d feel (falling asleep in the middle of daytime conversations). I couldn’t have known we’d make a 3am trip to the emergency vet two days after coming home (she’s fine). Or that the whole house would be covered in a layer of fine construction dust from work done in our absence (the kitchen alone took us 3 hours to clean). I also didn’t think it would take so long to unpack my bags completely (okay, so they’re still on the floor, half-unpacked, in the laundry room).

Taking your best guess

One of the best-kept secrets of time management is learning to schedule time for transitioning from one activity to another. And, oh, it is a fine art. Guessing how much time you’ll need to integrate back to “real” life after that long trip. Guessing how long it will take to arrive at your destination in one piece, head and heart aligned, and prepared to give an outstanding presentation. Guessing how much time you’ll need to bring closure to a creative project after pouring out your heart and soul before you’re ready for a new one.

In my planning my return from Ireland, I’d guessed I would need about three days to get back into the swing of things. I ended up really needing four. In fact, writing this article is the only real work-related thing I’m going to manage on my 4th day back. (Yay, me!)

The impact of omitting transition time

Planning transition time into your life is a fine art because most people are skilled at getting by without it.

How many people do you know who skid in sideways to meetings at the last minute, their hair askew, their notes a mess, and clearly emotionally frazzled? How many people do you know (including you) who drive their cars in risky, even dangerous ways because going faster is the only way to make up for lost time?

Omitting transition time makes life feel like a long, unending hassle. If you’re like me, this is not how you want to live.

Think for a moment of the last time you worked on an activity at a pleasant, leisurely, enjoyable pace. If you can say it’s been recently, truly – consider yourself fortunate.

The unexpected gifts of extra time

Leaving time at the end for transition, for spaciousness, for a precious deep breath to gather your wits about you – this is the next level. It will do more than just hone your time management skills; allowing for transition time provides you with unparalleled satisfaction and quality of life. Everything will feel better because you won’t be wishing you were somewhere else. Having made space for it, you’ll feel content with where you are.

Remembering where you come from

I had a moment of clarity this afternoon: the life I planned for myself when I returned home — the commitments I made after the transition time was over — is too much activity for one person. I’m being honest here. It’s too much. I distinctly remember thinking to myself before I left: I can fit this in. This will be tight, but I can do it. Every time I say this, it’s a lie. If I can fit it all in, I’m not accounting for the time my creative spirit needs to move mindfully from one thing into the next.

So here we are at the beginning, acknowledging that this — creating a mindful, intentional creative life — is a process. And the moment that you, I, we discover we’re off track? That’s the moment of power. We can then re-choose and course-correct in the direction that serves us, and others, best.

And we learn together. So, think for a moment: What helps you remember to leave some breathing room in your heart, your space, and your life between your moments of activity? Feel free to comment below about your experiences. I’d love to hear from you.

Warmly,
Jen

Creative Organizing Ideas: Craft Store Edition #4

October 8, 2012

Creative Organizing Ideas:
Craft Store Edition #4 – Scrapbook Paper Holders

I came across this image while surfing around (okay, drooling) on Pinterest. I’m now a big fan of scrapbooker and sociologist Stephanie and her blog, Scrap Happy.

Isn’t this great idea?!

Partial reams of colorful paper may make us feel happy inside, but they have a way of taking over a room. A little mint green, a little goldenrod – the next thing you know you have stacks upon stacks of paper supplies which each take up a minimum of 8.5 x 11 of your office surfaces which could probably be better used for other purposes. (Not to mention the fact that they are gathering 93.5 square inches of dust per stack.)

EUREKA! These vertical scrapbook paper holders make you feel warm and fuzzy about expanding your collection of bright and flashy paper, without having to dust so many inches of it.

And don’t stop with just storing paper — you could use these for holding projects too! Think of all the assorted papers we collect when we’re noodling a new project — now it would all be vertical and together! Imagine sturdy plastic containers made to hold paper vertically on any shelf or work table. Since the contents are visible and at eye level, you can go directly to the  project without a moment lost.

Simplicity. You’ve just got to love it.

Do you have a creative way of storing paper or projects?

Creative Organizing Ideas: Craft Store Edition #3 Craft boxes

October 1, 2012

Creative Organizing Ideas
Craft Store Edition #3 Craft boxes

As winter approaches a splash of color is a fine tonic to keep the doldrums at bay. Whether you decorate your own or find the perfect pre-decorated one at the craft store, you’ll find a hatbox full of ways to help you organize your home-office space.

Craft boxes are perfect for storing staples, rubber bands, thumbtacks, and postage stamps. Larger ones are big enough to keep stationery, inventory and/or other forms at your fingertips.

If you’ve ever had to sally forth to the post office with an armload of statements, you don’t have to be told how handy a big-enough-for-a-bunch-of-business-sized-envelopes sort of box will be in your home-business routine!

Craft boxes are especially useful for storing items you use less frequently. Sometimes the lids can be problematic (“I don’t feel like putting it away!”), so try craft boxes with and without the lids to see which works best for you.

A splash of color that makes your work day a little easier cannot possibly be a bad thing.

What ways do you use boxes to help you organize your office?

Creative Organizing Ideas: Craft Store Edition #2 Baskets

September 17, 2012

Creative Organizing Ideas:
Craft Store Edition #2 — Baskets

Image source: Ashley’s Nest — Click image to read full article

“A place for everything…” We all know that the secret to success in our office spaces is to actively use the systems we create to keep ourselves organized, but what happens when not everything we deal with daily has a perfect place? That’s where baskets in a variety of shapes and sizes can come to the rescue.

Mail, before it’s sorted, is much larger than it will ultimately be – which can be daunting. Mail is difficult to train. You can shout “Sit! Stay!” at that stack of letters until the cows come home, but it will not always obey. For the sake of your sanity, corral it in a basket the minute you bring it through the door. By keeping it from stampeding around your office, you can maintain the order of even the most rambunctious parcels until you have a moment to sort and disperse your mail.

The fewer times we must move a thing, the less the likely it is to become lost and the more time and precious energy we save. A basket can provide you with a place for keys, for example, and if you put those keys precisely in that spot every single time, it soon becomes automatic to look there first. Another example is a basket  for stamps and envelopes.

The same wisdom applies to all the tools of your particular trade. Are you an artist? Use tall baskets to store brushes and short ones for your paint pots. Are you a writer? Use a basket for each of your active projects to keep related materials together. I love my low, wide basket where I put all my paid bills and receipts until I’m ready to deal with them.

Craft stores carry baskets in so many different sizes and shapes, you’ll find a bonanza of organizational options that have feel cozier than standard file boxes. Have fun with baskets and use your creativity to quell the chaos.

Do you use baskets of any kind in your workspace? Share how you use them below!

Creative Organizing Ideas: Craft Store Edition #1 mini clothespins

September 10, 2012

Creative Organizing Ideas
Craft Store Edition #1 — mini clothes pins

Move over Big Office Box Store! This month, I’m featuring creative organizing ideas pulled right from the shelves of your local craft store. Proving that organizing can be a creative and functional activity!

Image source: Birds and Baking — Click image to see full article

Magnets are fine for some organizational applications- kitchens, for example, happen to be furnished literally with magnet-friendly places where to-do lists and appointment reminders can be posted. Not so the home office. Magnet-ing an invoice to your computer tower might breed a serious bill from the IT guy. Instead, consider the noble clothes pin.

Itty bitty, colorful clothes pins are not just good for hanging your kids’ wet Barbie clothes – they can also, with the help of a length of nearly invisible fishing line, serve to display the aforementioned invoices, bills, thank-you notes, photos and fragments of work-in-progress in an “off your desk but on your mind” kind of way.

While these little jewels are bulkier than paperclips and cannot be used effectively in file-cabinet duty, they work very well to pin unruly papers and bank deposits together in the short term. (Note of caution: Bank tellers love these little guys and will attempt to commandeer them for their own. Do not allow this. Tellers already have too many paperclips and other fun office doohickeys to distract them.)

As a bonus, IF you happen to spill your morning coffee on a stack of receipts you’ll already have the technology at your fingertips to dry them. (Second word of caution: If, in a moment of whimsy, you clip them to your ears in place of earrings, we suggest you remove them BEFORE leaving the home — or not!)

How might you use adorable, colorful mini clothespins in your home office?

Pardon me, you’re stepping on my space!

September 7, 2012

Creating healthy boundaries in your workspace

Have you ever had the experience of working on a project and experiencing flow — that satisfying moment of focused concentration — and someone walks into your space and interrupts you? That someone could be your spouse, your kids, even the dog in a playful mood.

One of the challenges of working from home is the illusion that you’re available just because you’re there.

Don’t get me wrong. I know you love the people and critters you live with. I know you’d do just about anything for them. If something urgent came up while you were hard at work, I’d never suggest neglecting them.

Why energetic space matters

Here’s the thing: Your business doesn’t have a voice the same way your family does. It can’t ask questions or demand your attention. Unlike the people in your household, your business can’t clear its throat and say “Yooo hoooo!” In order to thrive, your business needs physical and energetic structures that you must create.

While physical structure comes from having a space and a desk where you can do your work, energetic structures are more subtle. Energetic structures draw boundaries around how available you are, around who can enter and when.

How much availability is good for your business?

Start noticing

The first part of creating energetic boundaries is to start noticing the impact that others have on you while you’re working.

Because Inspired Spouse usually works four days per week, one of her days off overlaps with one of my days on. I love having her around during the day! A while ago, I started noticing that staying on task was really hard when she popped her head in to ask me something. I noticed that getting back on task was even harder.

When your partner asks you if you need the oil changed or your child says “Mom?” for the nth time or you step in a pet mess — how does it affect you? How does it affect your work?

Be honest with yourself. Your business is counting on you.

Figure out your intention

I was talking with one of my wonderful clients yesterday and we discovered together that her intention is to honor her life’s work. If she can work without interruption, she is able to really open up her heart fully and immerse herself in work she loves. I got the sense that she could truly relax and yield to her intuition. That’s an intention.

Creating an energetic boundary isn’t about limitations, its about deeply honoring what you intend to create through your business.

Consider this: If there were ground rules about when and how others could access you while you’re working, how might that positively affect your business? More focus? Greater service to others? More satisfaction? Your response is your intention.

Define what you want

If your primary relationship is anything like mine, you’ve bumped up against the issue of being interrupted before. Maybe you haven’t said anything about it, but you’ve felt irked. Perhaps you’ve tried to bring it up and had a hard time advocating for what you need without sounding vague, accusatory, or whiny. It’s okay. I’ve done it too — and there’s a remedy.

Spend some time thinking about the energetic elements that would help you feel supported and focused. For example, you might want freedom from interruption, reduced noise, specific times of day when no one is allowed into your space. Define what you want.

Here are the ground rules Inspired Spouse and I have negotiated for times when we’re both home:

  • We kiss goodbye and I “leave” for work, even if we’re both at home (intention: closure)
  • I keep the door closed to communicate that I’m working (intention: keep out distracting sounds)
  • Inspired Spouse knocks before entering my office. If I don’t answer, it means I’m on the phone or not available, so she won’t come in unless it’s an emergency (intention: productivity and service to my clients)

Did these all happen overnight? Nope. It was a process.

My intention? To get my work done enjoyably and still adore my spouse!

Then advocate for it

When I get clear about my needs and intentions, I am able to communicate it in an honest, respectful way.

One time, I shared the following:

“When you use our pokey internet to download large files, it affects how well I can write emails to clients and use social media to promote my business. I want to work effectively and I want you to have access to your files. Do you think we could negotiate how to support both of our wants?”

You’d have to ask Inspired Spouse whether I really said it that articulately, but the point is to:

  1. Share what you’ve noticed and the specific impact it has on your work
  2. Communicate your commitment to finding a win-win
  3. Share your intention and what you want
  4. Ask what their intention is and what they want
  5. Ask to negotiate a solution

You can do this process with adults and kids. As long as you’re honest, flexible, and willing to respectfully advocate for your work, this kind of negotiating is very effective.

Experiment

Whatever agreement you arrange, be sure to call it an experiment. By this I mean that you’re not issuing a 100-year moratorium on computer games or spontaneous conversation. You’re just trying something out together to see whether it works. Low pressure.

Agree to a date (say, three weeks) where you reassess how well the experiment is going. You might talk about what you’ve noticed and what to adjust. Then you do another experiment and see how it goes.

You deserve energetic space for your work

For a lot of people, claiming space brings up guilt and discomfort. In case you need to hear it, I want to affirm that you deserve physical space to do your important creative work and you deserve energetic space to use it fully. I believe this so deeply that I even wrote a manifesto about it.

You deserve to establish boundaries with others. I’m cheering you to find the courage to advocate for yourself. Remember why you’re doing it — who benefits, directly or indirectly, from you doing the work you love? It isn’t selfish to ask for energetic space because it allows so many people (including yourself) to warm up in the glow of the work you do.

Energetic space is good for you, your business, and those who love you.

Your next step: Notice — what interruption affects you most?